Masquerade Balls

Masquerade balls can be a ton of fun. People are asked to dress in exotic costumes. The more their faces are hidden, the better. You can pull this off by providing simple plastic eye masks at the door for those who don’t want to wear full costumes. It gives the impression of mingling with strangers, which can be very exciting for swingers.

Holiday Themes

If you are planning a swinger’s event near a big holiday, you can plan a holiday themed event easily. Valentine’s Day events will be a lot of fun if they are decorated with hearts and have a cupid running around. You can focus less on the love aspect and more on the sex with this. Halloween is another great holiday to plan an event around. People can come dressed in their favorite costumes and have a naughty trick or treat exchange.

Fetish and Toy Themes

If you have a group of swingers that enjoy fetish play, you can plan an event centered on this. A bondage theme will allow people that enjoy this to participate without feeling self-conscious. Toy parties are fun too. Have everyone bring a bag with their favorite sex toys and just see where the night goes.

Sensual Music

As a general rule of thumb, sensual music is always a good choice. Music from groups like Enigma or other ambient groups is a great choice. If you have separate areas set up, this type of music does really well in smaller playrooms where only a few people are going to be playing. This will create an atmosphere of sexual feelings.

High Energy Music

If you are going to have a dance area, or an area large enough for many people to play, high energy music is your best bet. This will get everyone’s adrenaline flowing and create an atmosphere where people are motivated to move around. Look for techno music, house music remixes, and club music for this type of situation.

Darker Music

If you are going to have some kind of dungeon set up, you want to find some darker music. Metal and electronic music work well for a dungeon set up. This will create the mood that is popular in BDSM and other dungeon play. It won’t take away from the activities. Just make sure the music isn’t blaring. It should be loud enough for everyone to hear, but not overpower people when they talk. You need it to be low enough for people to hear each other’s safe words if needed.

Know Their Kinks

If you are interested in having a party where everyone plays with everyone, inviting swingers who tend to be voyeurs may not go over well. This doesn’t mean you can’t have a great time with voyeurs present, they just may not be right for your shindig. Before you start inviting people make sure you know what they are in to so you know if the event will go over like you hope.

Not Always Friends

Something else to consider is that while you may swing with a certain group of people, those within that group may not be friends with everyone else. Swingers’ communities are full of complex relationships. Be sure everyone knows who you plan in inviting. This way if there is an issue they can tell you before the event so you can sort it out. You don’t want a small party go downhill because two people have issues with one another.

Know Them Beforehand

Unless you are allowing the people you invite to bring their own guests, make sure you know everyone you invite. It may be tempting to answer adverts in swinger’s forums, but if you don’t know most of the people you invite you may be setting yourself up for a bad night. If you are going to look at ads, make sure the swingers party is far enough way that you can meet up with the couple a few times to get to know them before you consider inviting them.

Truth or Dare

This age old party game is still a favorite among adults. To spice things up, use cards that you print beforehand with dirty questions and raunchy dares. As each player takes a turn, they must pull a card from the pile and answer or perform the task on the card. This way you can control how raunchy you want to make it, and you don’t have to come up with ideas on the fly. To be safe, have a couple of ‘pass’ cards for each player.

Spin the Bottle

Another oldie but goodie is spin the bottle which can be spiced up for an adult party. Instead of kissing, you can go a step further. Having ideas like fondling, giving head, or licking whip cream off someone’s chest are all good ideas to step up the old fashioned game making it more adult in nature.

Strip Games

Almost any card or board game can be used for a fun strip game. When a player loses a turn or plays a bad hand, they have to remove an article of clothing. You can have scarves and hats available for people who came dressed in very little.

Bedrooms

You want to have a few rooms set up for different types of play activity. You can designate a larger bedroom as an open playroom. This will be a good place for several couples to get together and play or watch each other. You should have a couple areas set aside for private play as well. This way couples who don’t want to be watched or participate openly with others will have a place to go. If you have fetishists attending, having a fetish room set up isn’t a bad idea either.

Bathrooms

You want to be sure you have bathrooms that are open at all times. You may want to designate one as a ‘sex free’ zone. This way, people can go in and lock the door behind them to clean up or get ready. In the bathrooms you should have plenty of individual soaps, toothbrushes and paste, powders, and other items needed to clean up. Wet wipes are a good idea.

Extras

Other than setting up the rooms, you want to have plenty of other items available. Condoms and individual packets of lube in all rooms will be appreciated. You also want to have clean towels available in several areas. Set up some hampers for people to toss their dirty towels. A refreshments area is a good idea as well. This will give your guests an area to grab drinks and snacks, and socialize.

Condoms and Lube

Condoms and lube that are easily available will be important. You can find a variety of different types of condoms for everyone at most adult sex shops. This way you can have a variety on hand. You can also find packets of lube that are packaged individually. This will keep things more sanitary and easier to grab when they are needed.

Towels and Bathroom Essentials

Having plenty of clean towels available will help keep everything clean and sanitary. You can pick up extra towels at thrift stores or discount stores and launder them beforehand. Have plenty of soaps available too. Individual bottles of mouthwash and travel sized toothbrushes and paste will also be appreciated.

Hampers and Trash Cans

You want to have trash cans with good plastic liners throughout the house. This way condoms will get tossed in the trash instead of flushed down the toilet. Lube packets will also be disposed of more easily. If you place a few small trash cans in each room your guests won’t have go hunting for a trash receptacle. If you are going to allow smoking indoors, have plenty of ashtrays available too. Having hampers placed throughout the home will make it easier for people to toss dirty towels. This way they aren’t dragging contaminated towels all over the house with them.